So what started out to be a frustrating day ended up being a wonderful, relaxing Thanksgiving with my husband and little girl :) Frustrating because my mom left this guilt trip on her facebook about us not coming to spend Thanksgiving with her, and because we had totally forgotten about Thanksgiving and hadn't prepared any food. And by prepared I mean grocery shopping.
Let me start off by saying why I was so frustrated with my mom. Her status said:
There were alot of things my mom didnt have, but one thing she did have was tradition.Every holiday her kids would come to her home, even if it was the only time they saw her. So when you have kids of your own and want tradition in your familys, remember how important it was to me......Happy Thanksgiving Mike and Brooke
First let me say this is frustrating because my mom hasn't spent a holiday, let alone, Thanksgiving at her moms since I was 16 years old, so as guilty as I first felt about not spending the holiday with her, the guilt went right out the window when I read this status update. Way to have that plan backfire. Second, we have 3 OTHER sets of parents who don't get every holiday with us, in fact my mom has gotten more holidays than any of the other parents, so even though we didn't spend Thanksgiving with any of them, I don't feel she has the right to pout. Third, my mom wasn't even having Thanksgiving at her house. She was having it at her husbands parents house, who as much as I love, are not my family. Plus they live 2 hours away. And we have a 3 month old who I am nursing. So when my husband and I talked about what we wanted to do for Thanksgiving this year, the idea of staying home and having our own, first Thanksgiving as a little family truly appealed to us. There would be no getting up early to get things done around here, no pumping extra milk to give to Riley while we were out. (I'm not a public nurser, and definitely not a nurser in front of semi-family types, I think I'd rather nurse in front of tons of people I didn't know vs. a handful of people I did.) Which also meant no swollen boobs while we were out either. There was no driving in holiday traffic, none of it. It was very appealing, and so we went with it! (Sorry for being a selfish brat.)
And then we dropped the butterball..... we had no food here. So I became super frustrated. Not only was I dealing with Facebook guilt trips, now there was no food, so it really was like having a family Thanksgiving without the food. You know, all the guilt, none of the good stuff? I decided yesterday was going to be just another day at home, and set off to pout for the rest of the day. Thats where super Dan comes in. He decided he was going to save Thanksgiving!
Around 11 AM yesterday, he trekked out into the LA streets in search of a thaw turkey and some side dishes, and you know what, hell if he wasn't successful! He came home and cooked us our first real turkey (The one we had in stockton was like a turkey breast, so we'll say it doesn't count. This one had bones!) and we had a nice, quiet Thanksgiving at home! It was wonderful.
Not only that, but Dan got to see Riley roll over, which she has done a couple times before, but we weren't sure if they were accidental roll overs, but regardless Dan had never seen her do it. AND she laughed yesterday. She had also done this a couple times before, but it was like a one time thing when Maggie was here and I was starting to think she just really liked her Grandma Maggie, because she hadn't done it since. But yesterday, she laughed. Not once, not twice, but a full out gigglefest. Loved it and loved her.
Yesterday, was a good day. Happy, content sigh.
I'm sure there will be hell to pay later, but for now, happy, content sigh.
